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As soon as you see the girl at the book store magazine section looking at Vogue magazine, you think she has the prettiest face you’ve ever seen. Her hair is dirty blonde. Her skin looks incredibly bright & super soft. Believe me, any guy would be on top of the world if he could get this girl.

But then you notice that fear deep down in your stomach.

U realize that even if you had balls and went for it, you wouldn’t have a clue what to say to the girl. You feel so nervous and dumb that even you would totally shoot yourself down if you were the girl. Due to this fact, you become super shy and don’t even approach her, you just walk off.

Does this ring a bell? I thought so. You’re gonna wanna read the rest of this lesson. You might also want to check out this great website that will give you a step by step system for losing your fear of approaching women in 30 days or less, click here now to see the system.

The first thing to realize is each guy has a degree of fear with approaching women. I know I for sure do and always have.

The thing that seperates us from the rest of the guys out there is………..

What You Do About Your Fear.

The majority of guys let their fear control them… not just about hot girls, but about other things in their life like their job… which is exactly the reason most guys will never find that success that they really want.

First, find out where that fear originates from. The real issue is found within you. It’s not with the girls.

If you are thinking about getting rejected, then that means you are making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind (I’m just speculating, but I believe if you’re like most men, your ultimate goal is getting hot girls attracted to you so that you can get them back to your place

Try this technique instead….. approach her without having any expectations.

I’m gonna tell you about a problem I used to have. I’m kind of an introvert.

So to conquer my shyness, I would literally force myself to talk to everybody, no matter who they were…… hot chicks, fat chicks, ugly chicks, old women, men, little kids, random people walking dogs, etc etc.

I chatted about neutral topics with everyone, nothing at all to do with picking up girls.

The end result from all of that was I became super excellent at approaching people.

After this, I committed a huge error. I said to myself, “Because I’m so awesome at approaching people and have become a social guy, why am I wasting time chatting to anyone other than hot girls?”

Because of this, I limited the people I talked to… & my fear of talking to strange women took control of me once again. It was as if I’d never had all that practice talking up random people in the 1st place.

I finally realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. Because I had ideas like “I’m going to try to sleep with this girl” in my head….. before I’d even open my mouth to say “hello”…. and so I would crash and burn. It was terrible.

I really want you to try this out. Anytime you’re out, chat with three people, and only do it for practice. Do not actually do this for real.

Since this is only practice, don’t just only talk to the good looking women. In general, I’ve found that old people (both men and women) and fat girls are easy to talk to.

Set up a time limit for your practice interactions, for instance, you’ll talk to the person for thirty seconds and then you’ll leave the conversation. (Say something like, “Hey, I’m on my way to meeting a buddy. Great chatting with you.” And the exit and don’t make an issue of it.)

Once you’ve done your practices and feel pretty good, then you can go for hot girls. Make sure to do it without having any type of sex-related outcome in mind. For example, if a hot girl passes by you on a walkway, just say, “Hi, I need a super quick female opinion on something.” (Then ask a question that you sincerely need a woman’s opinion on.)

Follwo this Rule: have no outcome in mind. Then it totally doesn’t make a difference if the woman is rude.

The moment you get to a level where you have chatted with a good amount of women, you’ll see that these rude replys don’t really mean anything. You’ll have an attitude of “ha, how original… I’ve had tons of girls give me that exact same ‘clever’ rude reply.”

I’ve been rejected tremendously, over and over again. One woman screamed “Go away!” at me before I could even get out my first sentence.

Today I look back on that stuff and laugh.

The point is that the more you approach, the more you’ll reach a level where you notice that most people act in the same, predictable ways. It will literally start to bore you rather than cause you fear, panic or anxiety.

Just imagine its like trying to construct a huge house. First you put down one brick at a time and then cement it. Brick, cement. Brick, cement. It will take a while, but pretty soon, those walls will go up (which lets you know you’re done with the toughest part).

To get a bit more psychological, there’s really no such thing as “being nervous.” You don’t “get nervous,” like it’s some kind of virus or cancer that invades your body.

All the feelings of nervousness come from within you. You have a certain mental process that you go through. You talk to yourself. (When you think thoughts like, “I would reject myself,” it sets you up to fail!) You see in your mind these women rejecting you. You feel tense in your body.

How can you stop thinking like this? Identify it for what it is.

Be aware of your negative feeling and thoughts & change them. Besides imagining, “I bet this chick is goint to be bitchy towards me because I didn’t say the perfect line”… think, “I’m glad that I’m making this approach, because if this girl rejects me, that means I’ve gotten her out of the way and I’m one step closer to becoming super good with women and finding the girl of my dreams.”

Notice where you feel tight in your body, and then let ur muscles totally relax in those areas. My jaw tightens up when I get nervous. So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles, it fixes a lot of that tension.

We’ll end the lesson with this advice:

A) Be social for the sake of being social. Nothing else.

B) Remember that the only way to get over your anxiety is by doing the thing you fear. The more often you do it, the simpler it gets, because your attitude about the experiences will become, “Been there, done that, it’s no big deal.”

C) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones.

D) Relax the physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous.

These tips were compliments of http://www.destroyapproachanxiety.com, a step by step system that will show you how to lose all your fear of approaching women in 30 days or less.

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