How to Have a Great Conversation with Women
You shouldn’t be shocked to discover that the most effective way to learn more about a woman is to ask her questions. Lots of people recommend memorizing “date questions” such as, “If you were a flavor of ice cream, which one would you be?” but these questions are not good. They are all rehearsed and sound plain bad in normal conversation. And they won’t help you get anywhere with the woman.
“Date questions” are the worst, and you should just give up on them.Instead, just allow a discussion with the girl happen automatically. Men often memorize stupid questions as a crutch to deal with feelings of nervousness or anxiety that they get. Ultimately, these corny routines will only keep you from having a good connection with a girl. Stop thinking so much and just be present of what is going on in the moment with you and her. Pay attention to how she responds to things and start to really care about her experience. You’ll never be at a loss for words .
Too many guys also just ask questions that can be answered with a “yes” or a “no”. If you do this kind of thing, stop it. This is creepy and it comes across as if you are interrogating her.
Are you from around here? – Yep.
Do you have a job in town? – Yep.
Do you like cats? – No.
Do all these dumb questions bother you? – Yes.
Instead, ask questions that require an explanation and make her put some of herself out there.
Which part of town do you like the most? – Definitely the XYZ District. I just moved there, in fact.
Oh yeah? What makes you like it so much? – It just has so much history. It’s really amazing. yadda …yadda… yadda.
This isn’t anything tough.
Ask the woman about her life and other experiences. Try to get a better understanding of how it feels to be her. Keep looking deeper by asking questions like “How does that make you feel?” or “What was that like?” You can also pay attention to how she reacts to things that you talk about and ask things like “You seemed a bit sad when you were telling me about your job. Tell me more about that.” This often uncovers things that the woman didn’t even know about herself.
After you do this a little bit, it might start to seem that the two of you are completely separated from the rest of the world in your own private bubble. The two of you could be in the most chaotic dance club in town, but you will feel like you’re completely alone with the woman.
Don’t you think that this is a immense improvement from “What’s your favorite type of jelly bean?”
So don’t rely those lame questions.Just bring yourself completely to the interaction and allow whatever happens to happen. Ask questions to the woman and start to really get an understanding about her life. Go ahead and ask her anything, as long as you genuinely care about her answer.
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